from April 19th "It's Dangerous..." Posted May 02, 2010
I was thinking about my relationship with my kids and the amount of time we had been spending with them, along with that, was the thought that the relationship that I was enjoying with my children was quite different from the relationship that I enjoyed with my parents.
Enjoyed in both cases being a key word.
Somehow I think there is more of an aspect of friendship in the relationship with my children, than in the relationship I had with my parents. Now this doesn't mean that there was a lack of love, rather it was just a totally different kind of relationship/interaction. I find that it is very easy easy for me to talk to my kids, so easy that in some cases I have to stop and think before continuing with the conversation. Think because I have to realize that what I have to say may be inappropriate for a conversation between parent and child, especially if we happen to be talking about a sibling of theirs.
I loved my Mom and Dad. I had great respect for my Mom and Dad. But when I think back on the conversations I have had with them, I was always talking to them as a child to a parent, sometimes sharing difficulties, sometimes looking for advice. Sometimes I would be disinterested in what they were saying because they were saying what I expected and had heard from them before. Maybe they weren't disclosing anything "new".
"MY HEART LEAPS UP WHEN I BEHOLD"
My heart leaps up when I behold
A rainbow in the sky:
So was it when my life began;
So is it now I am a man;
So be it when I shall grow old,
Or let me die!
The Child is father of the Man;
I could wish my days to be
Bound each to each by natural piety.
William Wordsworth 1802.
Answers.com says regarding the phrase "The Child is father of the Man;"
The phrase means that what we are when young gives shape and, in a sense, gives birth to what we are when grown.
My interpretation of the phrase differs. I perceive it to mean that as I as a child grow older, I become Father to my parents as they grow unable to do for themselves, I see this especially in LifeWife's Mom. As we age and mature she has become more childlike, due to a medical condition, but nonetheless we are assuming a parental role over our parents. We sign papers indicating that we will assume responsibility for their medical care, for their financial well being...
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Present Tense Parents
One time while talking with D2 I made some comment like. Well I'm done with parenting, you decide for yourself, you don't need me. I wasn't saying it in a plaintive whining way I was merely commenting that hey, you make your own decisions, and my internal thinking was that I tried to give you the tools to do that, so go for it.
Whoa, she gobsmacked me. How dare you think your job is done, I still need my Dad...my son needs his grandpa...
Obviously, I shot my mouth off without thinking,
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The Gripping Hand
Jerry Pournelle and Larry Niven co-authored a book in which they postulated an alien that had three arms, consequently, a right hand, a left hand and a gripping hand. The gripping hand allowed this alien to be an incredibly adept tool handler. Come on, think about it, how many times have you been working on some project and wished you had a gripping hand. Three points of view.
Point One, your position.
Point Two, "on the other hand" an alternative, and
Point Three, "on the gripping hand" another alternative.
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Shakespearean
HAMLET - Act III Scene I (the famous "To be or not to be..." soliloquy.)
To be, or not to be: that is the question:=============================================
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them? To die: to sleep;
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heart-ache and the thousand natural shocks
That flesh is heir to, 'tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To die, to sleep;
To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub;
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Creosote
Coal tar creosote is the most widely used wood preservative in the world. It is a thick, oily liquid typically amber to black in colour. The American Wood Preservers' Association states that creosote "shall be a distillate derived entirely from tars produced from the carbonization of bituminous coal." Coal tar used for certain applications may be a mixture of coal tar distillate and coal tar.
The prevailing use of creosote to preserve wooden utilities/telephone poles, railroad cross ties, switch ties and bridge timbers from decay. Coal tar products are also used in medicines to treat diseases such as psoriasis, and as animal and bird repellents, insecticides, animal dips, and fungicides. Some over the counter anti-dandruff shampoos contain coal tar solutions. Due to its carcinogenic character, the European Union has regulated the quality of creosote for the EU market and requires that the sale of creosote be limited to professional users
Stranger in a Strange Land is a best-selling 1961 Hugo Award-winning science fiction novel by Robert A. Heinlein. It tells the story of Valentine Michael Smith, a human raised by Martians on the planet Mars, after his return to Earth in early adulthood. The novel explores his interaction with—and the eventual transformation of—Earth culture. The novel's title refers to the Biblical Book of Exodus. According to Heinlein in Grumbles from the Grave, the novel's working title was The Heretic. Several later editions of the book have promoted it as "The most famous Science Fiction Novel ever written."
